- Don't discuss any issues pertaining to the children in front
of them or if they are within hearing distance of either parent.
- Don't ask them to carry or relay messages, verbal or written.
- Don't ask them to play "detective" meaning don't use
them as a source of information about the other parent's personal
life.
- Don't ask them to keep secrets from the other parent.
- Don't respond to their reports of disparaging remarks about you
by the other parent to any extent. The less you say, the less you
participate in putting them in the middle.
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- Do discuss child-related issues directly with the other parent
and when children are not present and out of earshot.
- Do talk directly to one another, without using the children to
relay messages.
- Obtain information about one another from sources other than
the children.
- Encourage children to speak freely to both parents.
- Resist the urge to respond to their reports of disparaging remarks
that the other parent has made about you. Less is more. The less you
say the more you help them stay out of the middle.
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